Thursday, August 30, 2007
If you are a foster or adoptive parent and you don't have your kids involved in therapy, I gotta say you're likely to encounter trouble at some point in your family's existence.
Some of my older kids didn't act out terribly and I didn't seek therapy for them back then. Maybe they would have benefited from it, I'll never know, but if I had a do-over, that's what I'd redo.
I saw issues emerge later in adulthood that might have been allayed earlier in their lives if it had been addressed in therapy, but I have no real proof of that.
Having worked for quite a few years, I'm thinking it's been close to ten years, with one therapist, Dr. G, I can't begin to describe the benefits. Vanessa is living proof; a walking, talking model. She resisted all attempts at first, however coming around and listening to someone besides Mama had such a very positive effect on her.
A former feces smearer in my house stopped doing so after years of therapy, also initially distrustful, eventually understanding that this was his time with someone else who seemed to understand him.
Dr. G has helped me understand when some kids needed more than could be provided in weekly therapy, he's provided understanding to my frustration, and explanations when I'm absolutely lost in the maelstrom of issues here.
He's also enlisted Dr. Mandy who has spent several years testing and doing psychological evaluations on my children, now earning the trust and confidence of my children, counseling a dozen of them, coming by three times a week.
I'm just a mama, we need outside professional psychological help for every reason in the book. Even normal everyday folks could benefit from a neutral, educated third party...how much more so for a family like mine.
Everything that ever happened to my children affects who they are today and how they respond to everything.