

There are very few people who knew me when I was childless, considering that my oldest child will be 32 this fall.
Nearly 40 years ago in the lunchroom of a junior high school I met my friend Barbara and we have managed to make the friendship last since the late 1960s.
It would be a book, not a blog, to detail all the events that we have been through but it is comforting now that I'm in my 50s to have someone who knew me as a pre-teen, a teenager, through pregnancy and child rasing, through marriages and now we are both grandmas. It's kind of staggering actually.
We grew up spending the night at each others houses constantly, she knows my past that is strictly off limits for discussion, she knows my secrets and keeps them for me. She knows the stupid stuff I've done and I'll be equally quiet on her behalf.
We lived near each other both in Virginia and in Louisiana and we've camped together often before I had so many kids. Sarah and I hauled it fast back to Louisiana one time for a very painful double funeral when Barbara needed me to be there with her.
She slipped and called Sarah,my oldest daughter, by my late sister's name. She caught herself and pointed out that Sarah now reminds her much of Ellen. Barbara knew Ellen since she was a child, she knows my brothers and my parents. Barbara remembers my grandparents who've been gone for decades. In today's day and time, this is increasingly unusual as we seem to lose so many connections that we once had with people.
When Barbara and her sweet, handsome husband left Sunday I told her I loved her. Since Ellen died I have been much more open about my love for friends and family since I have lost many people I have loved way too early.
Of course this reminds me painfully of how much my other children have lost in their past and in their childhoods before I adopted them. These connections with people are absolutely vital and to be treasured.
I'm grateful to have been friend with Barbara for so long and it's going to be cool to be around with her when her kids and mine are grand-parents, since many are now already parents.